When Democracy in the Nordics was Attacked

I saw on the news that a bomb had gone off in Oslo. Oh no, I thought, more stupid people who can't treasure the freedom they have in a democratic society. I didn't even care who it was and still don't, because how can any sane political motive be so against the Nordic democratic model? A model that lets you speak and think as you like.
Even when statements are offensive to other groups in society, the attitude is that "sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me." Growing up in a society like this, I learned to ignore the words that lay behind such violent actions. Words can't hurt me because I choose whether or not to listen.

And when Norway was struck by terror, I chose to listen to the victims. People who fled for their lives, people who died for others to live and all the people who helped them and still are supporting them. I listened to the great leaders of Norway, the King and the Prime Minister.
And I read articles about how amazed Americans were not to find that blood thirst but compassion was the predominant reaction amongst the Norwegians. For example this one from the Atlantic Wire: Comparing How Norway and the U.S. Respond to Terror

In this article, Fredrik Erixon, the director of the European Center for International Political Economy in Brussels, isn't sure the mood will last. "The fantastic show of support for open society and the values of democracy will inevitably fade away and be overshadowed by suspicion of the unknown" or anti-immigrant sentiment, he tells Bloomberg.
I don't agree with this. It hasn't been acceptable to be "scared of the unknown" in the Nordics since the 70ies. Nordic children are brought up to put a name on their fears in order to learn how to address it better.

This doesn't mean that there is no hostility against immigrants - far from it. But people know what they don't like and where the conflicts lie.
The problem for the Nordics is that the model of society builds on assumptions of a family consisting two working parents and 2-3 children, people that take part in the debate and go to vote with a sense of duty, people that learn a couple of extra languages to talk to people in other countries. And it is hard for the Nordics in general to accept when people don't conform to these ideals.

Ironically, in trying to defend the societies as they are, the Nordics run the risk of undermining the values on which they rest.